Being shy is a tough ordeal, but being shy and going off to college and completely submersing yourself in a world where you don’t know a single person is a whole different situation all together. But before you condemn yourself to another four years of isolation and loneliness, here are a few things to keep in mind:
1.) There’s nothing wrong with spending time alone. Everyone needs alone time, and many people don’t get enough of it. Actually, it can be a great opportunity to get to know yourself and wrap your head around all the new responsibility college holds. There’s nothing wrong with taking things slow and gradually wading into the social waters.
2.) Branch out slowly. Here’s the great thing about going to college where nobody knows you; you can literally create your own identity. No one knows all your embarrassing secrets, your quirky habits or all the things you’ve pretended to like (but secretly hate) for the last 4 years. You can be completely yourself!
3.) Create a schedule. There are certain things that are just going to be uncomfortable, and a schedule will help you feel a little more grounded. Go for a run every day after class, watch a favorite television show every Tuesday night, and try to do one thing every day to push yourself a little bit out of your comfort zone. Maybe it’s watching your show out in the main room to see if anyone else is a fan, or maybe it’s going to the gym instead of going for a run.
4.) Cut out drama. Extremely shy people have a tendency of grasping onto people that are unhealthy for them. Well, sometimes we all do, but when a person feels a high level of anxiety about making new friends or dating, they tend to keep hold of whoever is in their life already, even if those people aren’t good people to have in their lives. So instead of dragging yourself through the muck with someone that’s taking advantage of you, cut them loose. Trust me, you’ll be fine on your own.
5.) Accept yourself as a shy student. There’s nothing wrong with being shy, just like there’s nothing wrong with being outgoing! Know that there are many other students out there just like you, and pretty soon you’re going to find a few of them. Gradually you’ll begin to make friends that will understand you and accept you for who you are. And here’s the good news; most college students would say making friends in college is much easier than making friends in high school. There are more people, you are naturally around people that you have more in common with (students in your classes are probably in a similar major, and are a similar age and going through similar circumstances).
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